Monday, August 17, 2009
Why Guys Marry Some Girls (but Not Others)
All men have a secret wedding checklist: five traits they look for in a woman that say she's worth walking down the aisle for. He won't pop the question without 'em. It happens all the time: A guy spends months, even years, in a long-term relationship with a girl he really digs. But after dropping the I-don't-see-myselfever- getting-married bomb, he suddenly turns around and ties the knot with a new chick. The factors that tip a dude from steady relationship to "till death do us part" seem like the ultimate unsolved mystery ... especially when you're in a solid LTR and aren't sure if your guy is even considering marriage.It all comes down to some elusive qualities women have a hard time understanding but men are always on the lookout for, explains Willard Harley Jr., Ph.D., author of I Promise You: Preparing for a Marriage That Will Last a Lifetime. "Part of what makes him want to get married is chemistry and passion, but it's also about certain actions and behaviors that are more concrete than you'd think," says Harley. Below, we clue you in to five crucial traits that separate the girls men date from the ones who make them want to set a date.Tie-the-Knot-Trait 1: She's Exciting and Always EvolvingYou know how every season finale of your favorite TV show ends with a million unanswered questions and you can't freaking wait for the next one? Well, a girl can give her guy that same thrilling mix of exhilaration and anticipation by surprising him."She does this by being spontaneous and a little unpredictable, taking on new interests all the time, and revealing different facets of herself," explains Alon Gratch, Ph.D., author of If Love Could Think. By never letting life get static, this woman busts the myth that being married means feeling humdrum. "She makes being with her an adventure, as if there's always a new idea or activity just around the bend," says Gratch."With most of my girlfriends, I feared that we'd run out of things to talk about if we spent too much time together. But when I met my fiancée, Gwen, I kept discovering new layers to her. One day she came home from work with a stack of cookbooks; the next week she told me stories about how she loved designing outfits in high school. She's full of small surprises." —Brett, 29"I dated a lot of girls who liked pushing boundaries, but it all seemed a little forced. My wife's sense of adventure, however, comes from within. She's naturally driven to challenge herself by trying new things. That's the kind of girl you want to marry. If you aren't continually fascinated by each other, it won't last." —Rob, 38"The thing that makes my fiancée so captivating: She takes risks. I don't mean she bungee jumps off bridges. It's more that when a new opportunity comes along — a different facet to her job or the chance to meet new people at an event or party — she grabs it and proceeds. Her boldness makes her enchanting." —Bob, 27Tie-the-Knot-Trait 2: She Really, Really Loves SexNo big shocker here — a chick who enjoys twisting the sheets will always have a hopping social life. But when a woman makes the effort to have really connected sex that involves both body and mind, she goes from great girlfriend to marriage material in his view."Men crave sex that's erotic, but they also want sex that makes them feel deeply bonded," says Gratch. In other words, it's not all about wowing a guy with pretzel-like positions; a big part of having amazing booty is paying close attention to his mind-set and moods during the deed so sex reaches a higher, almost spiritual level.Another thing that makes them think of the M word: when a woman is actively committed to keeping the passion on high boil. "A guy's biggest fear is that the great sex that made him think you were The One will fall by the wayside," explains Douglas Weiss, Ph.D., author of The 7 Love Agreements: Decisions You Can Make on Your Own to Strengthen Your Marriage. "A woman who puts effort into maintaining that sizzle is a dream come true.""To make sure that the awesome sex we had when we first met didn't lose its passion, my wife came up with this idea for regular ‘sex bets.' For example, she'd bet me that I couldn't make her climax several times in a row, or I'd challenge her to initiate action in a semipublic spot. We have never fallen into a rut, and our competition keeps us feeling connected." —Jamie, 30"My fiancée did this terrific thing when we first started having sex: After we were finished, she'd tell me how good I made her feel, that she really liked how I felt against her skin. It made me want to tell her what I liked too. Guys aren't supposed to admit it, but opening up about how sex affects us emotionally actually enhances the physical side of things." —Paul, 28"My fiancée was up-front from the start about her desire for an extremely satisfying sex life; she never had any hang-ups about taking charge in bed or proposing out-there activities that a lot of women would be afraid to admit they were curious about. I could tell I wasn't getting ensnared in the classic bait-and-switch marriage that so many guys fall into — you know, when the action slows to a halt a year after you become husband and wife." —Russ, 34Tie-the-Knot-Trait 3: She Makes It Clear He's Not Her Entire LifeIt's flattering to a guy to realize that his girl thinks the world of him, but it's less appealing when he gets the impression that he is her world. That's why a girlfriend who retains her independence and sense of self, even as the relationship takes a serious turn, has definite wife appeal."A woman who depends on a man for her sense of fulfillment is a scary thing for a guy," says Gratch. "Men don't want to feel smothered or totally responsible for their partner's day-to-day happiness." The guy ideal: a chick who views coupledom as a solid partnership in which both she and her man still have separate identities."Before we were married, Jess would go out with her group of friends a lot, which I later became a part of. But she didn't put all of her focus on me. She made it clear that she was there to hang out with them. I really liked the fact that she wasn't the type of girl who ditches her girlfriends when she meets a guy. It made me confident that she'd always have her own life outside our relationship." —Sam, 33"She definitely makes time for me so we can do things as boyfriend and girlfriend, but my fiancée also keeps up her own life. She has a weekly dinner with college friends, an art class every Thursday night, plus the responsibilities of her job as a journalist. I like that she doesn't check with me first to see what I want to do and she doesn't offer to bail out of an event or night out with pals in favor of always being with me." —Charles, 35Tie-the-Knot-Trait 4: ...Yet She Still Conveys How Very Important He Is to HerOkay, so men dig independent chicks. But there's a fine line between being independent and acting aloof and detached. Guys settle down with a woman who regularly reveals her tender side and shows him that no matter what happens, she's got his back."Men view life as a struggle or war that they're fighting, and they want someone who'll be on their side at all times, through thick and thin," says Gratch. "This doesn't mean that a woman should mother him or assist him with every little detail of his life; it's more about consistently doing small, nurturing things that let him know you really care."A couple of examples: Bringing him a treat when he tells you he isn't feeling well or complimenting his brilliance after he finishes a stressful work project. "These gestures are tiny, but they reassure a man that his girl is solidly on his team," says Gratch."When we first started becoming a serious couple, my fiancé accepted a new job that required a lot of travel and attention. Still, even from hotels across the country, she took the time to call and check in on how my day was going and e-mail me little messages. She even stocked my refrigerator with beer and sandwiches before she'd leave on another trip. Her concern and thoughtfulness helped push our relationship to a higher level." —David, 28"Every so often, my in-laws and I will get into an argument. But from the very first one, my wife has always respectfully defended me, and this made me want to be with her forever. She loves her parents and values their opinions, of course, and she and I don't always see eye to eye. Yet no matter what the issue is, she still lets her family know that she's sticking by me. This is a big thing for guys. I know it sounds ridiculous, but men tend to see themselves as misunderstood lone wolves."-Alan, 30Tie-the-Knot-Trait 5: She Wants Him to Be the Best Man He Can BeMen don't secretly want their girlfriends to bark orders at them like a drill sergeant. It's more about helping him reach his potential by actively supporting his goals, even pushing him a teensy bit so he can succeed in whatever he does."Young guys tend to try to get away with as little as possible, and a lot of women let them, thinking that it would be out of line to challenge their man," says Harley. "But a man admires a woman who encourages him to shape up and toe the line ... as long as she has his best interests in mind and isn't trying to mold him."This also means calling his bluff and not letting him get away with slacking off. "Even though it might seem like tough love at the time, she helps him achieve and accomplish things, and deep down he appreciates her for that," says Harley."Before we got engaged, the woman who is now my fiancé told me that she thought I was drinking too much, working too hard, and not taking care of myself. Ouch. But when I actually took in what she said, I knew that she was right and she was looking out for me. No other girlfriend had ever been so honest." —Ryan, 29"I wasn't on speaking terms with my father for years, and when I told my girlfriend this and that I just didn't care about having a relationship with him anymore, she didn't nod sympathetically. She made me call him and work things out because she knew I'd eventually regret it if I didn't. She had the guts to disagree with me about something most women wouldn't want to get involved in." —Shawn, 31
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Airways
Indian Airlines - 1600 180 1407
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Automobiles
Mahindra Scorpio - 1600 22 6006
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Banks
ABN AMRO - 1600 11 2224
Canara Bank - 1600 44 6000
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Corporatin Bank - 1600 443 555
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State Bank of India - 1600 44 1955
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Cell Phones
BenQ - 1600 22 08 08
Bird CellPhones - 1600 11 7700
Motorola MotoAssist - 1600 11 1211
Nokia - 3030 3838
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Computers/IT
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AMD - 1600 425 6664
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Dell - 1600 444 026
Epson - 1600 44 0011
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Seagate - 1600 180 1104
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xerox - 1600 180 1225
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Edu Plus - 1600 444 000
Hindustan College - 1600 33 4438
NCERT - 1600 11 1265
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Best on Health - 1600 11 8899
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Kaya Skin Clinic - 1600 22 5292
LifeCell - 1600 44 5323
Manmar Technologies - 1600 33 4420
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Roche Accu-Chek - 1600 11 45 46
Rudraksha - 1600 21 4708
Varilux Lenses - 1600 44 8383
VLCC - 1600 33 1262
Home Appliances
Aiwa/Sony - 1600 11 1188
Anchor Switches - 1600 22 7979
Blue Star - 1600 22 2200
Bose Audio - 1600 11 2673
Bru Coffee Vending Machines - 1600 44 7171
Daikin Air Conditioners - 1600 444 222
DishTV - 1600 12 3474
Faber Chimneys - 1600 21 4595
Godrej - 1600 22 5511
Grundfos Pumps - 1600 33 4555
LG - 1901 180 9999
Philips - 1600 22 4422
Samsung - 1600 113 444
Sanyo - 1600 11 0101
Voltas - 1600 33 4546
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Hotel Reservations
GRT Grand - 1600 44 5500
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Insurance
AMP Sanmar - 1600 44 2200
Aviva - 1600 33 2244
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LIC - 1600 33 4433
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Mattresses
Kurl-on - 1600 44 0404
Sleepwell - 1600 11 2266
Investments/ Finance
CAMS - 1600 44 2267
Chola Mutual Fund - 1600 22 2300
Easy IPO's - 3030 5757
Fidelity Investments - 1600 180 8000
Franklin Templeton Fund - 1600 425 4255
J M Morgan Stanley - 1600 22 0004
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LIC Housing Finance - 1600 44 0005
SBI Mutual Fund - 1600 22 3040
Sharekhan - 1600 22 7500
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Paints
Asian Paints Home Solutions - 1600 22 5678
Berger Paints Home Decor - 1600 33 8800
Teleshoppin
Asian Sky Shop - 1600 22 1600
Jaipan Teleshoppe - 1600 11 5225
Tele Brands - 1600 11 8000
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WWS Teleshopping - 1600 220 777
Travel
Club Mahindra Holidays - 1600 33 4539
Cox & Kings - 1600 22 1235
God TV Tours - 1600 442 777
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Raj Travels & Tours - 1600 22 9900
Sita Tours - 1600 111 911
SOTC Tours - 1600 22 3344
UPS
APC - 1600 44 4272
Numeric - 1600 44 3266
Others
Consumer Helpline - 1600 11 4000
L'Oreal, GARNIeR - 1600 223 000
KONE Elevator - 1600 444 666
Indane - 1600 44 51 15
Aavin - 1600 44 3300
Pedigree - 1600 11 2121
Kodak India - 1600 22 8877
Domino's Pizza - 1600 111 123
World Vision India - 1600 444 550
Telecom Monitoring Cell - 1600 110 420
Indian Airlines - 1600 180 1407
Jet Airways - 1600 22 5522
SpiceJet - 1600 180 3333
Automobiles
Mahindra Scorpio - 1600 22 6006
Maruti - 1600 111 515
Tata Motors - 1600 22 5552
Windshield Experts - 1600 11 3636
Banks
ABN AMRO - 1600 11 2224
Canara Bank - 1600 44 6000
Citibank - 1600 44 2265
Corporatin Bank - 1600 443 555
Development Credit Bank - 1600 22 5769
HDFC Bank - 1600 227 227
ICICI Bank - 1600 333 499
ICICI Bank NRI - 1600 22 4848
IDBI Bank - 1600 11 6999
Indian Bank - 1600 425 1400
ING Vysya - 1600 44 9900
Kotak Mahindra Bank - 1600 22 6022
Lord Krishna Bank - 1600 11 2300
Punjab National Bank - 1600 122 222
State Bank of India - 1600 44 1955
Syndicate Bank - 1600 44 6655
Cell Phones
BenQ - 1600 22 08 08
Bird CellPhones - 1600 11 7700
Motorola MotoAssist - 1600 11 1211
Nokia - 3030 3838
Sony Ericsson - 3901 1111
Computers/IT
Adrenalin - 1600 444 445
AMD - 1600 425 6664
Apple Computers - 1600 444 683
Canon - 1600 333 366
Cisco Systems - 1600 221 777
Compaq - HP - 1600 444 999
Data One Broadband - 1600 424 1600
Dell - 1600 444 026
Epson - 1600 44 0011
eSys - 3970 0011
Genesis Tally Academy - 1600 444 888
HCL - 1600 180 8080
IBM - 1600 443 333
Lexmark - 1600 22 4477
Marshal's Point - 1600 33 4488
Microsoft - 1600 111 100
Microsoft Virus Update - 1901 333 334
Seagate - 1600 180 1104
Symantec - 1600 44 5533
TVS Electronics - 1600 444 566
WeP Peripherals - 1600 44 6446
Wipro - 1600 333 312
xerox - 1600 180 1225
Zenith - 1600 222 004
Couriers/Packers & Movers
ABT Courier - 1600 44 8585
AFL Wizz - 1600 22 9696
Agarwal Packers & Movers - 1600 11 4321
Associated Packers P Ltd - 1600 21 4560
DHL - 1600 111 345
FedEx - 1600 22 6161
Goel Packers & Movers - 1600 113456
UPS - 1600 22 7171
Education
Edu Plus - 1600 444 000
Hindustan College - 1600 33 4438
NCERT - 1600 11 1265
Vellore Institute of Technology - 1600 441 555
Healthcare
Best on Health - 1600 11 8899
Dr Batras - 1600 11 6767
GlaxoSmithKline - 1600 22 8797
Johnson & Johnson - 1600 22 8111
Kaya Skin Clinic - 1600 22 5292
LifeCell - 1600 44 5323
Manmar Technologies - 1600 33 4420
Pfizer - 1600 442 442
Roche Accu-Chek - 1600 11 45 46
Rudraksha - 1600 21 4708
Varilux Lenses - 1600 44 8383
VLCC - 1600 33 1262
Home Appliances
Aiwa/Sony - 1600 11 1188
Anchor Switches - 1600 22 7979
Blue Star - 1600 22 2200
Bose Audio - 1600 11 2673
Bru Coffee Vending Machines - 1600 44 7171
Daikin Air Conditioners - 1600 444 222
DishTV - 1600 12 3474
Faber Chimneys - 1600 21 4595
Godrej - 1600 22 5511
Grundfos Pumps - 1600 33 4555
LG - 1901 180 9999
Philips - 1600 22 4422
Samsung - 1600 113 444
Sanyo - 1600 11 0101
Voltas - 1600 33 4546
WorldSpace Satellite Radio - 160044 5432
Hotel Reservations
GRT Grand - 1600 44 5500
InterContinental Hotels Group - 1600 111 000
Marriott - 1600 22 0044
Sarovar Park Plaza - 1600 111 222
Taj Holidays - 1600 111 825
Insurance
AMP Sanmar - 1600 44 2200
Aviva - 1600 33 2244
Bajaj Allianz - 1600 22 5858
Chola MS General Insurance - 160044 5544
HDFC Standard Life - 1600 227 227
LIC - 1600 33 4433
Max New York Life - 1600 33 5577
Royal Sundaram - 1600 33 8899
SBI Life Insurance - 1600 22 9090
Mattresses
Kurl-on - 1600 44 0404
Sleepwell - 1600 11 2266
Investments/ Finance
CAMS - 1600 44 2267
Chola Mutual Fund - 1600 22 2300
Easy IPO's - 3030 5757
Fidelity Investments - 1600 180 8000
Franklin Templeton Fund - 1600 425 4255
J M Morgan Stanley - 1600 22 0004
Kotak Mutual Fund - 1600 222 626
LIC Housing Finance - 1600 44 0005
SBI Mutual Fund - 1600 22 3040
Sharekhan - 1600 22 7500
Tata Mutual Fund - 1600 22 0101
Paints
Asian Paints Home Solutions - 1600 22 5678
Berger Paints Home Decor - 1600 33 8800
Teleshoppin
Asian Sky Shop - 1600 22 1600
Jaipan Teleshoppe - 1600 11 5225
Tele Brands - 1600 11 8000
VMI Teleshopping - 1600 447 777
WWS Teleshopping - 1600 220 777
Travel
Club Mahindra Holidays - 1600 33 4539
Cox & Kings - 1600 22 1235
God TV Tours - 1600 442 777
Kerala Tourism - 1600 444 747
Kumarakom Lake Resort - 1600 44 5030
Raj Travels & Tours - 1600 22 9900
Sita Tours - 1600 111 911
SOTC Tours - 1600 22 3344
UPS
APC - 1600 44 4272
Numeric - 1600 44 3266
Others
Consumer Helpline - 1600 11 4000
L'Oreal, GARNIeR - 1600 223 000
KONE Elevator - 1600 444 666
Indane - 1600 44 51 15
Aavin - 1600 44 3300
Pedigree - 1600 11 2121
Kodak India - 1600 22 8877
Domino's Pizza - 1600 111 123
World Vision India - 1600 444 550
Telecom Monitoring Cell - 1600 110 420
Job Questions..
Hi Guyz,Honestly, we will have these answers in our mind ... but we give different, tailored and suitable answers to the guy !
1. Why did you apply for this job?I have applied for many jobs along with this and you called me now.
2. Why do you want to work for this company?I have to work for some company who ever gives me a job, I don't have any specific company in mind.
3. Why should I hire you?You have to hire some one, you may give me a try.
4. What would you do if this happened? Well, it depends my mindset and mood at that situation...
5. What is your biggest strength?Basically, daring to join any company who pays me well, without thinking of the fate of company
6. What is your biggest weakness?Girls
7. What was your worst mistake, and how did you learn from it?Joining my earlier company and learnt that I need to jump to get more money, so I am here today
8. What accomplishments in your last position are you most proud of?Had I accomplished any in my last position, why do I need to change my job? I could demand more and stay there.
9. Describe a challenge you faced and how you overcame it? Biggest challenge is answering the question "why are you looking for a change" and I started blabbering irrelevantly to overcome that.
10. Why did you leave/ are you leaving your last job?For the same reason why you left your earlier job
11. What do you want from this job?If no work is given but keep giving good hikes
12. What are your career goals and how do you plan to achieve them? Make more money and for that keep jumping companies for every 2 yrs
13. Did you hear of our company and what do you know of us?Yeah, I know that you will ask this, I've gone through your website
14. What is the salary expected and how do justify that?Well, no one will change job for the same salary, hence, give me 20% extra than what I am getting and that is unpublished industry standard
(I know you will bargain on what ever I ask, hence, I have already hiked my current salary by 30%)
Hehehe
1. Why did you apply for this job?I have applied for many jobs along with this and you called me now.
2. Why do you want to work for this company?I have to work for some company who ever gives me a job, I don't have any specific company in mind.
3. Why should I hire you?You have to hire some one, you may give me a try.
4. What would you do if this happened? Well, it depends my mindset and mood at that situation...
5. What is your biggest strength?Basically, daring to join any company who pays me well, without thinking of the fate of company
6. What is your biggest weakness?Girls
7. What was your worst mistake, and how did you learn from it?Joining my earlier company and learnt that I need to jump to get more money, so I am here today
8. What accomplishments in your last position are you most proud of?Had I accomplished any in my last position, why do I need to change my job? I could demand more and stay there.
9. Describe a challenge you faced and how you overcame it? Biggest challenge is answering the question "why are you looking for a change" and I started blabbering irrelevantly to overcome that.
10. Why did you leave/ are you leaving your last job?For the same reason why you left your earlier job
11. What do you want from this job?If no work is given but keep giving good hikes
12. What are your career goals and how do you plan to achieve them? Make more money and for that keep jumping companies for every 2 yrs
13. Did you hear of our company and what do you know of us?Yeah, I know that you will ask this, I've gone through your website
14. What is the salary expected and how do justify that?Well, no one will change job for the same salary, hence, give me 20% extra than what I am getting and that is unpublished industry standard
(I know you will bargain on what ever I ask, hence, I have already hiked my current salary by 30%)
Hehehe
REASONS TO BE GLAD THAT YOU'RE A MAN!!!
1. Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
2. Movie nudity is virtually always female.
3. A five day vacation requires only one suitcase.
4. Dry cleaners and haircutters don't rob you blind.
5. Your ass is never a factor in a job interview
6. You don't have to lug a bag of useless stuff around everywhere you go.
7. When your work is criticized, you don't have topanic and think that everyone secretly hates you.
8. Your last name stays put.
9. You can be showered and ready in 10 minutes.
10. Wedding plans take care of themselves.
11. Your underwear costs Rs. 200 for a 5 pack.
12. You don't have to shave below your neck.
13. Three pair of shoes are more than enough.
14. Nobody stops telling a dirty joke when you walkinto the room.
15. You can watch a game in silence with your buddyfor hours without even thinking "He must be made atme".
16. No Hot wax for u.
17. You know at least 20 ways to open a beer bottle.
18. You can sit with your knees apart no matter whatyour wearing.
19. Gray hair and wrinkles add character.
20. With 400 million sperm per shot, you could doublethe earth's population in 15 tries (at least in theorythat is).
21. The remote is your's and your's alone.
22. People never glance at your chest when you're talking to them.
23. You can drop by and see a friend without bringinga little gift.
24. Bachelor parties are more fun than bridal showers.
25. You can buy condoms without the store clerk imagining you naked.
26. If you don't call your buddy when you say you will, he won't tell your friends you've changed.
27. If another guy shows up at the party in the sameoutfit, you might become lifelong friends.
28. New shoes don't cut, blister or mangle your feet.
29. You don't have to remember everyone's birthdaysand anniversaries, not even your own.
30. Your buddies can be trusted never to trap you with: "So....notice anything different?"
31. Baywatch ...
2. Movie nudity is virtually always female.
3. A five day vacation requires only one suitcase.
4. Dry cleaners and haircutters don't rob you blind.
5. Your ass is never a factor in a job interview
6. You don't have to lug a bag of useless stuff around everywhere you go.
7. When your work is criticized, you don't have topanic and think that everyone secretly hates you.
8. Your last name stays put.
9. You can be showered and ready in 10 minutes.
10. Wedding plans take care of themselves.
11. Your underwear costs Rs. 200 for a 5 pack.
12. You don't have to shave below your neck.
13. Three pair of shoes are more than enough.
14. Nobody stops telling a dirty joke when you walkinto the room.
15. You can watch a game in silence with your buddyfor hours without even thinking "He must be made atme".
16. No Hot wax for u.
17. You know at least 20 ways to open a beer bottle.
18. You can sit with your knees apart no matter whatyour wearing.
19. Gray hair and wrinkles add character.
20. With 400 million sperm per shot, you could doublethe earth's population in 15 tries (at least in theorythat is).
21. The remote is your's and your's alone.
22. People never glance at your chest when you're talking to them.
23. You can drop by and see a friend without bringinga little gift.
24. Bachelor parties are more fun than bridal showers.
25. You can buy condoms without the store clerk imagining you naked.
26. If you don't call your buddy when you say you will, he won't tell your friends you've changed.
27. If another guy shows up at the party in the sameoutfit, you might become lifelong friends.
28. New shoes don't cut, blister or mangle your feet.
29. You don't have to remember everyone's birthdaysand anniversaries, not even your own.
30. Your buddies can be trusted never to trap you with: "So....notice anything different?"
31. Baywatch ...
How to Impress a Woman!!
Step 1
Ask her about herself, her ambitions, her life. Be interested. It's a rare woman who wants to sit around all night listening to a man talk about himself. And the more you try to impress her with your tales of adventure, the less impressed she'll be.
Step 2
Be presentable. Women are notorious accessorizers, and whether she'll admit it to you or not, you are an accessory. Other women will judge her on her choice. A clean, good-smelling man with well-fitting clothes is a real prize.
Step 3
Make eye contact. A lot. And smile - in a friendly way. Don't leer.
Step 4
Be a gentleman. It's a myth that chivalry is dead, right? There are just a few women out there messing it up for the rest of us who really do like to have doors held open for us.
Step 5
Learn to dance. Women will flock to you - all of them will be impressed.
Step 6
Be funny without being crude. It's an art.
Step 7
Compliment her. Notice her shoes or her watch - something that shows you're paying attention. We'll change our clothes six times before we leave the house; it's nice to find someone who appreciates the final choice.
Step 8
It's hard for a woman not to be impressed with a man who is impressed with her. If you really like her, tell her so. You don't have to make a big deal about it, just let her know you admire her.
How to impress a woman you like!
One of the most common questions guys ask me when they seek dating advice is how to impress a woman who they like and who they are thinking about asking out, or they have already asked out on a date. This desire to impress is understandable. The guy wants to put his best foot forward with a woman and make her like him as much as possible and as soon as possible, and also realize that he is different and better than the other guys that might be interested in her, or she might be interested in.
However, what most guys don't realize is this: the best way to impress a woman on a date or at any other time is by not trying to impress her at all. Think about it - we all know that women find confidence to be one of the most attractive qualities in guys, but what is confidence exactly, and what makes a guy come across as confident with women? Well, it's exactly that - not trying to impress any woman but acting exactly the same way he would if he weren't around her - that's what makes a guy attractive and even sexually desirable to a woman - being "natural," "normal" and "himself." Virtually any way to purposely impress a woman, such as taking her out to very expensive dinners, buying her generous gifts, driving too fast, bragging about your wealth and accomplishments, etc., will only make you less attractive in her eyes because it screams insecurity: "Please like me, please take me, look how much I do for you to impress you, don't you see how much I care about you, don't you want to compensate me for all my efforts?" But guess what - women usually say "no" unless they want to take advantage of the guy. They smell insecurity and desperation on a guy who is eager to show them how much he cares about them and who does everything "too early and too much."
A woman who wants a lover and not a sponsor would much rather be with a man who doesn't need to prove himself to her but who believes in his own worth and in his ability to attract her with who he is by simply spending time with her. A truly confident guy's frame of mind is this: "I am a great guy, I am fun, funny, and interesting. I am not interested in most women, but like you, and I want to share with you my time, space. I want to share with you my knowledge, views and opinions on things because they are valuable and intersting. And if that's not enough for you - if that's not what makes you interested to be with me, then I am sorry - I am not the one for you."
This means that the next time you meet a girl and you are thinking about asking her out, you shold stop worrying once and for all about what the two of you will be doing on your date. The moment you feel the pressure to impress her by the exciting things you will be doing on your first date, you should stop and ask yourself: why do I need to impress her? Is this because it's not going to be fun for us to just spend time together over a cup of tea and while talking a simple walk together? If the answer to these questions is "yes" in your mind, this means that either you are not a good match, or you are not ready to go out and be as confident and attractive as you should be and you should work on that before you go out with the next girl.
Make no mistake about it - women can tell when you try too hard to impress them and few things turn them off more than a man's desperate attempt to seek validation and reassurance from a woman and be liked at any cost. So, remember - the best way to impress a woman is by not trying to impress her!
However, what most guys don't realize is this: the best way to impress a woman on a date or at any other time is by not trying to impress her at all. Think about it - we all know that women find confidence to be one of the most attractive qualities in guys, but what is confidence exactly, and what makes a guy come across as confident with women? Well, it's exactly that - not trying to impress any woman but acting exactly the same way he would if he weren't around her - that's what makes a guy attractive and even sexually desirable to a woman - being "natural," "normal" and "himself." Virtually any way to purposely impress a woman, such as taking her out to very expensive dinners, buying her generous gifts, driving too fast, bragging about your wealth and accomplishments, etc., will only make you less attractive in her eyes because it screams insecurity: "Please like me, please take me, look how much I do for you to impress you, don't you see how much I care about you, don't you want to compensate me for all my efforts?" But guess what - women usually say "no" unless they want to take advantage of the guy. They smell insecurity and desperation on a guy who is eager to show them how much he cares about them and who does everything "too early and too much."
A woman who wants a lover and not a sponsor would much rather be with a man who doesn't need to prove himself to her but who believes in his own worth and in his ability to attract her with who he is by simply spending time with her. A truly confident guy's frame of mind is this: "I am a great guy, I am fun, funny, and interesting. I am not interested in most women, but like you, and I want to share with you my time, space. I want to share with you my knowledge, views and opinions on things because they are valuable and intersting. And if that's not enough for you - if that's not what makes you interested to be with me, then I am sorry - I am not the one for you."
This means that the next time you meet a girl and you are thinking about asking her out, you shold stop worrying once and for all about what the two of you will be doing on your date. The moment you feel the pressure to impress her by the exciting things you will be doing on your first date, you should stop and ask yourself: why do I need to impress her? Is this because it's not going to be fun for us to just spend time together over a cup of tea and while talking a simple walk together? If the answer to these questions is "yes" in your mind, this means that either you are not a good match, or you are not ready to go out and be as confident and attractive as you should be and you should work on that before you go out with the next girl.
Make no mistake about it - women can tell when you try too hard to impress them and few things turn them off more than a man's desperate attempt to seek validation and reassurance from a woman and be liked at any cost. So, remember - the best way to impress a woman is by not trying to impress her!
Impressing Woman!!
The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON'T SCREW THIS UP.
Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he's talking to:
1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress" the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes coming across as "formal".
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn't like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease the woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her....in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes", he's usually on his "best behavior", and he's trying to "put his best foot forward".
To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY "LIKE".And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.
There's your first hint, in fact...
THE SECRET is:STOP TRYING.
If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you.
TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER.
So let's break this down...WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROADWhat's wrong with trying to "impress" women, anyway?
To start with, EVERYTHING.When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a "subtle" level:
1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead.
2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4) I'm insecure.
5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me.
Ouch.But it's the truth.Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying".
The conversation doesn't feel "normal", your body language is strange, and you can't seem to have a regular conversation.
MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT'S OLD NEWS. IT'S BORING. IT'S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.
The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can't make normal conversation... it also bores the hell out of women.
WHAT TO DO INSTEAD , KEEP THE HUMOR GOING. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman... and I mean REALLY impress her.But these things aren't OBVIOUS.The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you.This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.And it's the one thing that will make women pursue YOU... and try to impress YOU.
Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.
Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he's talking to:
1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress" the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes coming across as "formal".
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn't like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease the woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her....in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes", he's usually on his "best behavior", and he's trying to "put his best foot forward".
To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY "LIKE".And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.
There's your first hint, in fact...
THE SECRET is:STOP TRYING.
If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you.
TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER.
So let's break this down...WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROADWhat's wrong with trying to "impress" women, anyway?
To start with, EVERYTHING.When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a "subtle" level:
1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead.
2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4) I'm insecure.
5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me.
Ouch.But it's the truth.Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying".
The conversation doesn't feel "normal", your body language is strange, and you can't seem to have a regular conversation.
MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT'S OLD NEWS. IT'S BORING. IT'S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.
The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can't make normal conversation... it also bores the hell out of women.
WHAT TO DO INSTEAD , KEEP THE HUMOR GOING. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman... and I mean REALLY impress her.But these things aren't OBVIOUS.The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you.This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.And it's the one thing that will make women pursue YOU... and try to impress YOU.
Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.
Reasons to Remain Single
Reasons to Remain Single:
Single is in! I’ll give you many good reasons why you should remain single.
Personal Belongings.
The Bathroom.
Conversation.
Closet Space.
Leftovers.
Undressing.
Leaving/Returning Home.
Telephone Calls.
Uninvited/Unwanted Guests.
Fighting Neighbors.
Decorating.
Bedtime.
Unbroken.
Serious Uncertainties.
Enjoy Dating.
Financial In-Stability.
Too Many Personality Flaws.
You can take the time to find the right woman.
You can focus on your career.
You can do what you want, when you want.
You can enjoy a sexual smorgasbord.
You can build wealth.
You can enjoy serenity.
You can keep your toys.
You don't have to compromise.
THE SINGLE LIFE:
While marriage may provide certain benefits, when you choose to stay single, you're keeping the door open for many more options and opportunities in your life. Your male independence is something you should never surrender lightly, even if you think you've met the girl of your dreams.So think twice (or maybe three times) before you take that long walk down the aisle.
If you're still not sure about it, however, here's one last reason for staying single: You don't have to deal with in-laws.
"Point made."
Single is in! I’ll give you many good reasons why you should remain single.
Personal Belongings.
The Bathroom.
Conversation.
Closet Space.
Leftovers.
Undressing.
Leaving/Returning Home.
Telephone Calls.
Uninvited/Unwanted Guests.
Fighting Neighbors.
Decorating.
Bedtime.
Unbroken.
Serious Uncertainties.
Enjoy Dating.
Financial In-Stability.
Too Many Personality Flaws.
You can take the time to find the right woman.
You can focus on your career.
You can do what you want, when you want.
You can enjoy a sexual smorgasbord.
You can build wealth.
You can enjoy serenity.
You can keep your toys.
You don't have to compromise.
THE SINGLE LIFE:
While marriage may provide certain benefits, when you choose to stay single, you're keeping the door open for many more options and opportunities in your life. Your male independence is something you should never surrender lightly, even if you think you've met the girl of your dreams.So think twice (or maybe three times) before you take that long walk down the aisle.
If you're still not sure about it, however, here's one last reason for staying single: You don't have to deal with in-laws.
"Point made."
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Top 10 Reasons To Remain Single....
Number 10
You don't have to tolerate moodiness & nagging
Fellas, how many times have you been in the doghouse because your woman was livid for reasons you still don't understand? Relish not being the target of her inexplicable mood swings, and the calm that comes when there's no nagging. When you wake up on the couch, you'll know it's because you chose to pass out there.
Number 9
You can gain weight without worrying
Just as you can spend more time buffing up at the gym, you can also just chill and let yourself go for a little while. When you're not on the market, you don't have to worry about looking like an Adonis every day. Go ahead and wear that threadbare Metallica T-shirt and those holey boxers. Enjoy the pleasure of occasionally being a slob. Just don't go so far that you can't trim down in time for when you decide to start hunting.
Number 8
You can appreciate your independence
You can use your newfound free time for solitary fun, as well as self-improvement. Being single forces you to do things for yourself, like cook, do laundry and tidy up your pad. Being skilled at many things makes you a more complete, well-rounded person -- a great card to hold when you decide to reenter the dating market.
Furthermore, independence is a great trait, and women will likely notice that you're not the needy, clingy type.
Number 7
You can control your finances
If you've ever been in a serious relationship, you know that, sooner or later, a good chunk of your budget goes into steady lady-maintenance costs. Bachelorhood gives you full financial freedom, and you never have to worry about paying for dinner or buying presents.
However, understand that this does not mean that you will save money -- on the contrary; you might be spending more on partying, buying drinks, dressing well, and so on. But at least you are the master of every single dollar you spend.
Number 6
You have more time for activities
When you're single, you have no reason to sit around doing nothing. Want to harden your body at the gym? Play a new instrument? How about watch the Die Hard trilogy for the 11th time? Who's stopping you?
You can even use the time that you'd spend pleasing a demanding girlfriend to hang with the boys. After all, isn't neglecting your friends one of the biggest sacrifices of couplehood?
Look forward to being spontaneous, not having to answer to anyone and flirting like crazy...
Number 5
You don't have to deal with another's personal habits
You used to cringe when she used your razor to shave her legs, and the scented candles she burned in every room made you sick. Now there's no irritating habits to tolerate. You can sleep peacefully without her snoring and hog all the blankets without a care in the world. You have no one to pick up after but yourself. Give your patience a well-deserved break and live in unflustered.
Number 4
You can be spontaneous
Being single lets your break out of the numbing cycle of routine. Be daring while you can. Go on a fishing trip with your crew at the drop of a hat. Push it further and head out on a wild Spring Break surrounded by gorgeous college women. Not only will you be doing something out of the ordinary, you can do it without double-checking with someone else first. This is the height of freedom.
Number 3
You can focus on your career
Life is a juggling act in which you have to keep the many elements aloft, paying equal attention to each one. But if you let one drop, you can channel your forces to the remaining parts. In the absence of a relationship, you'll have much more time to devote to your work. You can put in those extra hours on a project to impress your boss, and even take on something else. And you don't have to worry about sacrificing your love life, as you'll be single and vigorous.
Number 2
You can be your own boss
Relationships are synonymous with compromise. You eventually have to sacrifice something you really like -- a football game or extra cheese on your pizza -- for the good of the pair. Use your single time to treat yourself a little more. In small doses, selfishness is good for the soul.
Being your own boss also means answering to no one. You went to a strip club? You got the scent of some woman's perfume all over your clothes? Enjoy not having to explain your actions.
Number 1
You can flirt as you please
Nothing is worse than that nagging voice in your head telling you that you shouldn't be talking to this killer brunette in front of you. Being single gives you the complete freedom to flirt with whomever you want, whenever you want.
It also gives you the chance to sharpen your mojo so that, before you know it, you'll be the master player on your block. Since you're unattached, take this opportunity to master the art of seduction, and who knows what rewards you'll reap.
the bright side of solitude
Everything has a good side; you just have to learn how to spot it. Society places too much importance on finding a mate, something your hormones are quick to enforce. The next time you get that pesky feeling that you have to be with someone, remember these 10 points, and you'll savor the joys of being a free man.
You don't have to tolerate moodiness & nagging
Fellas, how many times have you been in the doghouse because your woman was livid for reasons you still don't understand? Relish not being the target of her inexplicable mood swings, and the calm that comes when there's no nagging. When you wake up on the couch, you'll know it's because you chose to pass out there.
Number 9
You can gain weight without worrying
Just as you can spend more time buffing up at the gym, you can also just chill and let yourself go for a little while. When you're not on the market, you don't have to worry about looking like an Adonis every day. Go ahead and wear that threadbare Metallica T-shirt and those holey boxers. Enjoy the pleasure of occasionally being a slob. Just don't go so far that you can't trim down in time for when you decide to start hunting.
Number 8
You can appreciate your independence
You can use your newfound free time for solitary fun, as well as self-improvement. Being single forces you to do things for yourself, like cook, do laundry and tidy up your pad. Being skilled at many things makes you a more complete, well-rounded person -- a great card to hold when you decide to reenter the dating market.
Furthermore, independence is a great trait, and women will likely notice that you're not the needy, clingy type.
Number 7
You can control your finances
If you've ever been in a serious relationship, you know that, sooner or later, a good chunk of your budget goes into steady lady-maintenance costs. Bachelorhood gives you full financial freedom, and you never have to worry about paying for dinner or buying presents.
However, understand that this does not mean that you will save money -- on the contrary; you might be spending more on partying, buying drinks, dressing well, and so on. But at least you are the master of every single dollar you spend.
Number 6
You have more time for activities
When you're single, you have no reason to sit around doing nothing. Want to harden your body at the gym? Play a new instrument? How about watch the Die Hard trilogy for the 11th time? Who's stopping you?
You can even use the time that you'd spend pleasing a demanding girlfriend to hang with the boys. After all, isn't neglecting your friends one of the biggest sacrifices of couplehood?
Look forward to being spontaneous, not having to answer to anyone and flirting like crazy...
Number 5
You don't have to deal with another's personal habits
You used to cringe when she used your razor to shave her legs, and the scented candles she burned in every room made you sick. Now there's no irritating habits to tolerate. You can sleep peacefully without her snoring and hog all the blankets without a care in the world. You have no one to pick up after but yourself. Give your patience a well-deserved break and live in unflustered.
Number 4
You can be spontaneous
Being single lets your break out of the numbing cycle of routine. Be daring while you can. Go on a fishing trip with your crew at the drop of a hat. Push it further and head out on a wild Spring Break surrounded by gorgeous college women. Not only will you be doing something out of the ordinary, you can do it without double-checking with someone else first. This is the height of freedom.
Number 3
You can focus on your career
Life is a juggling act in which you have to keep the many elements aloft, paying equal attention to each one. But if you let one drop, you can channel your forces to the remaining parts. In the absence of a relationship, you'll have much more time to devote to your work. You can put in those extra hours on a project to impress your boss, and even take on something else. And you don't have to worry about sacrificing your love life, as you'll be single and vigorous.
Number 2
You can be your own boss
Relationships are synonymous with compromise. You eventually have to sacrifice something you really like -- a football game or extra cheese on your pizza -- for the good of the pair. Use your single time to treat yourself a little more. In small doses, selfishness is good for the soul.
Being your own boss also means answering to no one. You went to a strip club? You got the scent of some woman's perfume all over your clothes? Enjoy not having to explain your actions.
Number 1
You can flirt as you please
Nothing is worse than that nagging voice in your head telling you that you shouldn't be talking to this killer brunette in front of you. Being single gives you the complete freedom to flirt with whomever you want, whenever you want.
It also gives you the chance to sharpen your mojo so that, before you know it, you'll be the master player on your block. Since you're unattached, take this opportunity to master the art of seduction, and who knows what rewards you'll reap.
the bright side of solitude
Everything has a good side; you just have to learn how to spot it. Society places too much importance on finding a mate, something your hormones are quick to enforce. The next time you get that pesky feeling that you have to be with someone, remember these 10 points, and you'll savor the joys of being a free man.
Few Reasons To Celebrate Ur Single Status
There are more ways than ever to find the right person for you. Until then, here are just a few reasons to celebrate your single status.
1) Flirting is encouraged
You don't have to feel guilty about staring at that cutie from the coffee place, or oogling a particular hotie on the street.
2) Your money is your own
If you want to blow a week’s salary in Vegas, it's entirely up to you. There's no one to nag you to put it in the bank for a rainy day.
3) All the covers are yours
No waking up cold. No pulling blankets off of someone else just so you can get a few hours sleep. (And no one snoring all night to interrupt your peaceful shut-eye.)
4) Let your spirits fly!
Having a great day? Your partner can’t come home and dampen your mood. Conversely, you don’t need to cheer up anyone else.
5) You can leave your socks anywhere you want
No one will nag you to pick them up. You also won’t have to pick up socks or underwear that isn’t yours!
6) You get to meet new people
Dating is a fun activity. You get to know new people and learn what makes them tick. You can have conversations about anything and everything - not just about your significant other's day or what your kids did in school. Best of all, in going out on different dates you'll be stretching your comfort zone and discovering new activities you might not have otherwise tried.
7) You don’t answer to anyone
If Sunday is your day to watch the game, hang out at the bookstore, or swing by every rummage sale in town, no one can tell you otherwise. If you want to go to the gym or eat popcorn for dinner? Go ahead!
8) You can devote more time to your career
Singles are sometimes envious when their married coworkers duck out at five to pick up the kids, but being on your own can have distinct advantages at work. You’re more flexible; you can bail out your boss by devoting more time to an important new project and even jump on a last-minute flight to sooth an angry client. This type of availability can make your boss take notice, and hopefully, reward you.
9) Meet your friends whenever you’d like
Married and otherwise attached folks are sometimes not as flexible as their single counterparts when it comes to keeping up with friendships. So when the guys decide to grab a beer and wings at the last minute or the girls plan an after-work get together you can easily join them without worrying about someone else’s schedule.
10) You only have one set of relatives to deal with
While it can be great to have a large family get together with both sides of an extended family, it can also be a headache at times. If you’re someone that prefers a more quiet holiday by just dealing with one goofy family (your own), being single can afford you a calmer celebration.
1) Flirting is encouraged
You don't have to feel guilty about staring at that cutie from the coffee place, or oogling a particular hotie on the street.
2) Your money is your own
If you want to blow a week’s salary in Vegas, it's entirely up to you. There's no one to nag you to put it in the bank for a rainy day.
3) All the covers are yours
No waking up cold. No pulling blankets off of someone else just so you can get a few hours sleep. (And no one snoring all night to interrupt your peaceful shut-eye.)
4) Let your spirits fly!
Having a great day? Your partner can’t come home and dampen your mood. Conversely, you don’t need to cheer up anyone else.
5) You can leave your socks anywhere you want
No one will nag you to pick them up. You also won’t have to pick up socks or underwear that isn’t yours!
6) You get to meet new people
Dating is a fun activity. You get to know new people and learn what makes them tick. You can have conversations about anything and everything - not just about your significant other's day or what your kids did in school. Best of all, in going out on different dates you'll be stretching your comfort zone and discovering new activities you might not have otherwise tried.
7) You don’t answer to anyone
If Sunday is your day to watch the game, hang out at the bookstore, or swing by every rummage sale in town, no one can tell you otherwise. If you want to go to the gym or eat popcorn for dinner? Go ahead!
8) You can devote more time to your career
Singles are sometimes envious when their married coworkers duck out at five to pick up the kids, but being on your own can have distinct advantages at work. You’re more flexible; you can bail out your boss by devoting more time to an important new project and even jump on a last-minute flight to sooth an angry client. This type of availability can make your boss take notice, and hopefully, reward you.
9) Meet your friends whenever you’d like
Married and otherwise attached folks are sometimes not as flexible as their single counterparts when it comes to keeping up with friendships. So when the guys decide to grab a beer and wings at the last minute or the girls plan an after-work get together you can easily join them without worrying about someone else’s schedule.
10) You only have one set of relatives to deal with
While it can be great to have a large family get together with both sides of an extended family, it can also be a headache at times. If you’re someone that prefers a more quiet holiday by just dealing with one goofy family (your own), being single can afford you a calmer celebration.
Advantages & Disdvantages of Arranged Marriages!!
Advantages of Arranged Marriages
If we leave the west for a few days and transplant ourselves into any culture that promotes arranged marriages, we will, in time, realize the logic behind this practice and appreciate the reasons why they work. Some of those reasons can be attributed to the wisdom of elders. Because they raised and cared for their children, they instinctively know what’s best for their children, which includes the decision to select a life partner.
1. Risk of incompatability is diminished
Arranged marriages presuppose that two people are perfectly matched because they belong to the same culture, share the same religious upbringing, speak the same language, and raised in more or less the same socio-economic class. These identical backgrounds make it easier for the couple to communicate with each other and understand where each “is coming from.” Decisions in the upbringing of future children and their education leave little room for disparities in their thinking because of this “likeness.”
2. Idea of divorcing is unthinkable
This is another acknowledged advantage of arranged marriages. Given that the man and woman come from a similar background and therefore share the same views of marriage and family, the chance of divorce due to irreconcilable differences is not as strong as in western cultures.
Note that it is not so much the arranged marriage per se that reduces the likelihood of divorce. As we discussed in another article, most arranged marriages no longer trigger a negative reaction because a good number of them are not forced. Parents who arrange marriages are fully aware that their children can always refuse a selected partner, in which case they simply look for another suitable partner. The input from the future groom and bride carries weight. The combination, therefore, of the parents’ wisdom and consent of the child would lead to a happier union so divorce would be unlikely.
India is the perfect example of a society where arranged marriages are still the norm and where the divorce rate is very low.
3. Extended family support has its benefits
In traditional societies, spouses sometimes live with the parents or live in the same housing compound. In times of difficulty, the couple can count on the help of their parents and in-laws for physical, emotional and financial support. When the children are born and both spouses work, finding adequate babysitters is a non-issue because the grandparents pitch in the care and nurturing of the children. The children are therefore supervised by close family members instead of by complete strangers, making them comfortable because they live in an atmosphere that they know well. Needless to add, when the couple has arguments, well-meaning elders can step in and offer advice and “arbitration” sessions.
Disadvantages of Arranged Marriages
For those who learn that arranged marriages are not necessarily forced, they adopt a more tolerant attitude towards this practice. One reason for this tolerance is that arranged marriages are a cultural trademark and should not be judged using western standards. If those who marry believe it’s “no big deal” to have their marriages arranged because it is a way of life they are accustomed to, then why should outsiders try to convince them otherwise? It’s not as if they’re being dragged into the marriage against their will or being groomed as slaves.
Nevertheless, for the sake of argument, here are some disadvantages of arranged marriages:
1. Inability to make up one’s own mind
When marriages are arranged by elders or parents, this does not encourage spouses to make up their own mind about who to marry. Instead of dating and meeting people and comparing them against one’s ideals, they leave that part of the work to someone else. Should either spouse end up unhappy after being married a few years, it can be very tempting to blame one’s parents for making an unsuitable choice.
2. Love takes second priority
“Decide with your head and not with your heart” is what parents tell their children. This philosophy tends to put love in the back burner. For people who live in societies where arranged marriages are the practice, they are convinced that if they don’t feel any passionate love when it takes place, love will bloom eventually. It is more important to consider the social and economic viability of the marriage rather than put romantic love at the forefront – which will fade anyway because romantic love is at best a superficial feeling.
3. Interference from extended family
While there are benefits to having one’s extended family close by who can offer support when needed, this proximity has pitfalls. For some Muslims and others who have, in particular, been living in the west for a long time, may find this closeness a little awkward and uncomfortable. Some marital arguments and conflicts are settled better when only the spouses are involved.
If we leave the west for a few days and transplant ourselves into any culture that promotes arranged marriages, we will, in time, realize the logic behind this practice and appreciate the reasons why they work. Some of those reasons can be attributed to the wisdom of elders. Because they raised and cared for their children, they instinctively know what’s best for their children, which includes the decision to select a life partner.
1. Risk of incompatability is diminished
Arranged marriages presuppose that two people are perfectly matched because they belong to the same culture, share the same religious upbringing, speak the same language, and raised in more or less the same socio-economic class. These identical backgrounds make it easier for the couple to communicate with each other and understand where each “is coming from.” Decisions in the upbringing of future children and their education leave little room for disparities in their thinking because of this “likeness.”
2. Idea of divorcing is unthinkable
This is another acknowledged advantage of arranged marriages. Given that the man and woman come from a similar background and therefore share the same views of marriage and family, the chance of divorce due to irreconcilable differences is not as strong as in western cultures.
Note that it is not so much the arranged marriage per se that reduces the likelihood of divorce. As we discussed in another article, most arranged marriages no longer trigger a negative reaction because a good number of them are not forced. Parents who arrange marriages are fully aware that their children can always refuse a selected partner, in which case they simply look for another suitable partner. The input from the future groom and bride carries weight. The combination, therefore, of the parents’ wisdom and consent of the child would lead to a happier union so divorce would be unlikely.
India is the perfect example of a society where arranged marriages are still the norm and where the divorce rate is very low.
3. Extended family support has its benefits
In traditional societies, spouses sometimes live with the parents or live in the same housing compound. In times of difficulty, the couple can count on the help of their parents and in-laws for physical, emotional and financial support. When the children are born and both spouses work, finding adequate babysitters is a non-issue because the grandparents pitch in the care and nurturing of the children. The children are therefore supervised by close family members instead of by complete strangers, making them comfortable because they live in an atmosphere that they know well. Needless to add, when the couple has arguments, well-meaning elders can step in and offer advice and “arbitration” sessions.
Disadvantages of Arranged Marriages
For those who learn that arranged marriages are not necessarily forced, they adopt a more tolerant attitude towards this practice. One reason for this tolerance is that arranged marriages are a cultural trademark and should not be judged using western standards. If those who marry believe it’s “no big deal” to have their marriages arranged because it is a way of life they are accustomed to, then why should outsiders try to convince them otherwise? It’s not as if they’re being dragged into the marriage against their will or being groomed as slaves.
Nevertheless, for the sake of argument, here are some disadvantages of arranged marriages:
1. Inability to make up one’s own mind
When marriages are arranged by elders or parents, this does not encourage spouses to make up their own mind about who to marry. Instead of dating and meeting people and comparing them against one’s ideals, they leave that part of the work to someone else. Should either spouse end up unhappy after being married a few years, it can be very tempting to blame one’s parents for making an unsuitable choice.
2. Love takes second priority
“Decide with your head and not with your heart” is what parents tell their children. This philosophy tends to put love in the back burner. For people who live in societies where arranged marriages are the practice, they are convinced that if they don’t feel any passionate love when it takes place, love will bloom eventually. It is more important to consider the social and economic viability of the marriage rather than put romantic love at the forefront – which will fade anyway because romantic love is at best a superficial feeling.
3. Interference from extended family
While there are benefits to having one’s extended family close by who can offer support when needed, this proximity has pitfalls. For some Muslims and others who have, in particular, been living in the west for a long time, may find this closeness a little awkward and uncomfortable. Some marital arguments and conflicts are settled better when only the spouses are involved.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Your Life - Your Likes - You Decide!!!
Your life - your likes - you decide!!!
A long time ago, there was an Emperor who told his horseman that if he could ride on his horse and cover as much land area as he likes, then the Emperor would give him the area of land he has covered.
Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land area as he could. He kept on riding and riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible.
When he was hungry or tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible.
Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted and was dying. Then he asked himself, "Why did I push myself so hard to cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area to bury myself."
The above story is similar with the journey of our Life.
We push very hard everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. We neglect our health , time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and the hobbies we love.
One day when we look back , we will realize that we don't really need that much , but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.
Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition . Life is definitely not about work! Work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life. Life is a balance of Work and Play , Family and Personal time . You have to decide how you want to balance your Life. Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts. Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence.
So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is fragile , Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balanced lifestyle and enjoy Life!
Watch your thoughts ; they become words .
Watch your words ; they become actions .
Watch your actions ; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character .
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny
A long time ago, there was an Emperor who told his horseman that if he could ride on his horse and cover as much land area as he likes, then the Emperor would give him the area of land he has covered.
Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land area as he could. He kept on riding and riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible.
When he was hungry or tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible.
Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted and was dying. Then he asked himself, "Why did I push myself so hard to cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area to bury myself."
The above story is similar with the journey of our Life.
We push very hard everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. We neglect our health , time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and the hobbies we love.
One day when we look back , we will realize that we don't really need that much , but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.
Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition . Life is definitely not about work! Work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life. Life is a balance of Work and Play , Family and Personal time . You have to decide how you want to balance your Life. Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts. Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence.
So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is fragile , Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balanced lifestyle and enjoy Life!
Watch your thoughts ; they become words .
Watch your words ; they become actions .
Watch your actions ; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character .
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny
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